Category: Let's talk
It's a trend that seems to have developed along with electronic communication, where many people sign their emails, text messages, and in some instances their online conversations with kisses.
I do it. "hello hope you are ok xx". "talk to you later xx". I don't do it on all my texts and emails but on those to people I think something of.
But opinion appears to be divided.
There are those that sign with xx, and then there are those that can't see the point. And then, I discovered recently, there are those that thinkk that signing with kisses denotes a deeper interest in the individual and that if you're signing a text to someone who is in a relationship, for instance, the partner has good reason to believe that your intentions towards their other half are dishonourable.
So are you a kisser or not.
it depends on whom i'm talking to. if to someone i particular meet before, and have a friendship with them, also a female, i'll usually sign off with a hug and a 'xox'.
however, if it is a male, i'll most likely not to do that. just in case, if another party think there's something more than what i would have thought, or want to be.
in another hand, if i'm close enough with the male, for example, we have know for years, or have build a strong friendship, and knowing exactly each other stands in a friendship, or a relationship, i'll most likely sign of with a hug, or if it is deeper than that, might go with a xx.
cheers
One of my exes would constantly sign his IM's and email messages to me with kisses even before we had gotten together, and I've text chatted with other people who do the same thing. I never use it myself since I tend to write my actions between asterisk marks (like "*kiss*"), and even then I only kiss close family members. But with the x as a kiss symbol and the o as a hug one, it's honestly hard for me to take them seriously because they seem so overused sometimes, kind of like when people put a bunch of exclamation points at the end of their sentences. So honestly I didn't used to pay much attention to the kisses, But now that I'm writing this, I'll probably be thinking about it and wondering what the point is for people writing it, and why the multiples like two or more at a time. I actually wonder if it is just a habit for people to use them, even with people they don't know, or if they would really kiss that person in real life. Sometimes I think it's just a habit for some people to write it.
I only do that with family, and really close female friends, and of course, my husband, although we rarely need to write to each other. I won't be offended if people do that to me, as long as I know it's a way of signing a message, and not implying other things, at least, in the case of male friends.
I never personally do it except with one friend. He was the first one I've ever seen do it, and though it could've been a way of signing, I always thought it was a little more with him. In any case, I've very rarely seen others sign with kisses but would think it was strange unless it was a good friend or my boyfriend, though he doesn't use netspeak at all, which is refreshing. I'm also the type to write things in asterisks and like when others do that as well, since it cuts down on the stupid imoticons.
I think it is more of a girl thing. I never do it and I do not know any guys who do, at least not straight guys.
In instant messaging I use *hugs* for close friends that do that kind of thing. I have a, perhaps, peculiar rule for emails, I use "love" by itself for some friends of mine, even "love ya" with one friend who always does that, but writing out "love you" or "I love you" is only for emails from the mrs, or sometimes from one of my sisters.
Love or love ya to me are more friendly/I care sort of phrases and I only use that with established friends of many years who understand what I mean, and what I do not mean.
People and friendships are so different that all sorts of traditions develop for each.
Cheers
-B
Certainly not, and it is not to be done when communicating with me. This site is bad enough with all the hugs, and though I don't give them, I think I have been too relaxed when receiving them recently, so from now on, anybody who hugs me risks being told off.
I'll hug people online if I've talked to them for a while and I like talking to them, if I don't, they'll usually get a cheery helo if they want it.
as for emails, no, I don't, because, the only one I'd do it for, my fiance, I'd prefer to tell him a straight up 'I love you' than do something that makes me look like a ditsy teenager.q
I never saw the point...
I know boys who do it as well as girls. But, to me, it's pointless and something close to a bad speech habit in life. Like adding "lol" after everything you say.
Do people still add lol after everything they say? I know they did that a few years ago.
I only say Lol at something I say if I'm intending to be funny but I don't do it constantly. But as for the other stuff, nope, I don't even offer up hugs unless I think the person really needs it and if I know the person well. I think it would seem creepy of me to offer up hugs to somebody I barely know.
Once upon a time though, I had contacts who said lol after every message. That's my excuse for taking ages to work out what it meant.
And here I thought that xx was the Roman numeral twenty.
Seriously though I do see it on Facebook quite a bit, and yes I think if a guy does it he's probably gay. The hugs thing I see on here a lot but some on Facebook.
I just don't, but if they wish to slobber all over each other's cell phone / ass-phyxiate one another in ginormous, eighties-style, drum-circle-going thenthitive-men style group hugs, well, go at it I guess. Just don't get all huffy when not everyone does it.
Anyone else notice how from hugs to huffy takes approximately 0.25 of a second?
One day, people are going to have to say lol, to explain that something is funny....
Nope, I don't do it and if I do it's to family members that I really love or to my best friends in all of the world. But other than that, I don't think so. I'll admit I use to be one of those lolish girls too, but it gets old and ain't nothing that damn funny. I barely use lmao and it took me a while to figure out what rofl meant...
I'll use lol but certainly not at every sentence. Still, it's one of the few netspeak terms that I've actually picked up. But I'll also sometimes simply write out haha to show that I was laughing. Nine times out of ten, I prefer regular English online and off.
OK, I must really be out of the loop, because I'd never even heard of signing a message in this way till I saw this thread. Um, weird? But on second thought, probably not much weirder than giving online or text hugs to someone. Like poster three said, I often put my actions between asterisk symbols, since many of my blind friends wouldn't see the emoticons. Just a habit I've gotten into. I've never had anyone sign a message to me this way. Hugs are one thing, kisses implies a deeper intimacy. I can't see myself doing it. And, though I woudln't assume someone who signed a message to my BF that way automatically had ill intent, it would still weird me out a bit.
I have noticed it's used a lot more by people in the uk. Like on facebook, if you read peoples comments, most of the time when it is coming from someone from the uk , or even have noticed australia, you see xx at the end of almost every comment. B, lots of guys do it also. again it's mainly the guys in the uk! in saying that I do it too! lol I don't know if it's because I got use to seeing it a lot or what. lol!
Yeah, I've noticed that too. I was going through a girl's profile on here and that was the first time I've seen it. Then the second time was in a magazine. All the celebs on twitter do it too, so I don't know what's up with that, but as for me I've never used it.
I generally sign with hugs rather than kisses, With family and very close friends I will sometimes sign a text with a single x instead of hugs because of space and the level of closeness.
I m someone who expresses love with friends, simply due to the level of death I've experienced around me, so feel it's important to share, but always try to ensure those to whom I express such know exactly what I mean by it.
We're obviously more affectionate on this side of the Atlantic lol xx.
You know, there might be something in that... it's not just an internet thing either.
I've experienced so much more friendliness in the UK and Europe, that I don't know what to do with myself...
It's odd, because I'm not the sort of girl who is used to getting greeted every morning by total strangers and having short conversationals with people I don't even know.
I started noticing it a lot in the UK, especially when I stayed in cornwall and somerset. and now that I'm living in Switzerland I'm also noticing a trend in friendliness toward one another. Wherever I go, with my fiance or without, at least 3 people or more, depending on the journey time, will say hello and ask me how I am. It's odd for me, because I'm not the sort of person who will just greet people I don't know, mainly because I prefer my privacy. However, my fiance pointed out to me that it's actually considered very rude not to greet others, so I started giving mispronounced swiss greetings to people when I saw them.
I also spent time in Norway earlier this year, and while not as actively nice as the Swiss, they are still a very friendly bunch of people, by the time my visit was over, the whole family that I stayed with pretty much considered me one of them, and they still do and have been asking me to come back ever since. maybe europeans are just more openly affectionate.
hmm, agree, its more a UK thing, but by saying so, doesn't mean that the Americans don't use it too. just to a different degree and different words i guess. instead of going to 'xxx' American might go with things like kisses, cuddles and so on.
i guess, Australian have adapt to all the british and american way. everyware you go, if someone know you, even as just knowing you plainly to that, people seems don't mind giving you a hug and a kiss on the cheek... and start to call you affactionate name that sometime make you cold... must admit, thats, rather anoying.
So due to the laws of equal opposites, since there's a sign for a kiss, what's the sign for a kick, then?
had never thought of it as being a UK thing before.
To be fair I generally only put xx's on emails/texts/written communication to people I absolutely like. There are some who put them on their facebook statuses and such like: "would like to say that I love my friends xxx" or "has had such a lovely day xxx" now that I just find odd.
I only have one american friend whose texts and emails etc I sign with x's he probably thought I was mad. But I will probably still continue to do so.
xox is generally the way I've noted anyone using this as an affectionate greeting in closing
and that to be interpreted as, kiss-hug-kiss and that from generally an older aged group {50 and over}
and interrupted as an all out friendliness to everyone. Kinda like how someone would have signed a letter before all this electronic mail came into being and would sign this, xox like as a warmer, Sincerely.
really any denotation of just xx, more so taken to enter into more so an x-rated/"adult" type of situation where on public boards this has been noted... Because when a link is followed through if on a public board the link usually takes a person to said activity that can't be posted on the Board currently due to it's being a General and not x-rated board/forum.
Can't ever remember receiving an xx in e-mail communication from anyone, so must maybe more so a uk thing {for kiss}..?? {or maybe my friends are just that, friends and not of the "illicit" community and not to infer that anyone here who uses the xx is of said community}
Some have closed with, kiss and if it were to go to xx, then well, as pre-mentioned, it would be considered the going further in communication from a sexual point of view. A, kiss, is just that... not going beyond
I've not been into using ither one... the oxo or the xx
I will use more so, hug, for general friendliness and love, for something more meaningful.